Children – just like all people – need connection. We are wired for connection with others and when we don’t have enough of it, things can feel like they’re going sideways. From homework and after school sports to everything in between, it’s no secret that life gets busy. No matter what, it’s important to make time to connect with the kids in your life. This helps them feel valued, seen, and heard. Here are some simple ways to connect with busy kids.
#1: Establish ‘special’ time.
Special time with no distractions with just you and your kiddo is important to have. This time is something different than running errands together or doing chores around the house with each other. This is time that is set aside to do something special. Maybe it’s going to get a mocha with your teenager once a week before school. Perhaps it’s taking your toddler to the zoo on the weekend, or a visit to the mall to pick out a new outfit for your elementary age child. Having one-on-one time with your child opens the window for conversation and connection that otherwise can be hard to come by when things are incredibly busy.
#2: Have a family game night.
There are all sorts of fun family games out there! Create a regular family game night, maybe once a week or once a month. Whether it’s a card game, an interactive game, or something else that gets the family laughing and chatting, find several games that you can add into the game night mix. It’s fun, relaxing, and gives your kids something to look forward to.
#3: Visit their world.
What does your child love? What are they passionate about or interested in? Ask questions, get involved, and try to immerse yourself in their world for a bit. If you show interest in the things that they care about, they will feel more connected.
#4: Practice empathy.
Growing up means processing lots of big emotions. When you make time to sit with your kids and meet their emotions with empathy, they will feel more understood, and ultimately you’ll foster a deeper connection.
Last, remember that giving your child your undivided attention goes a long way in building trust and establishing a stronger connection. If your children know that you are listening to them and truly hearing what they’re saying, they will be more apt to open up about their feelings and confide in you. Even during the busiest of days, setting aside five or ten minutes where they know you are all ears is a wonderful way to build a connection that stands the test of time.