Each child that comes into the world has a unique personality, a distinct point of view, and a one-of-a-kind opportunity to impact the world around them. And if you ask parents and nannies what they want most in life for their kids, most of the time you’ll hear the same answer: for them to be happy and to know who they are. Your children are amazing human beings and empowering them to be confident and believe in themselves is no small task. Here are some tips on how to do that.
#1: Choices.
As children grow up, they are presented with many different opportunities, choices, and decisions. By letting them make some of their own choices, you are empowering your kids to think for themselves and build the confidence they need. Maybe it’s small decisions like what they will wear or the day or what they want to play with. This is a choice-making activity that develops a long-term skill in them.
#2: Let them try different things.
One of the best parts of having a young person in your life is seeing them discover what they’re good at. However, they can’t do that unless you provide ample opportunity. For example, if they express that they are interested in singing or dancing, consider what ways you can encourage them to do more of that. Perhaps it’s enrolling them in a community dance class or a theater organization. If you have noticed that they have a natural talent for math or drawing, borrow books from the library or buy activities that help them tap into that skill. Letting your children take risks and try different things will help you determine what will ‘stick’ and ultimately, they have a greater chance of learning what they’re passionate about.
#3: Listen.
People who are empowered – young and old alike – are reassured by feeling heard. Ask the children in your life about their day and what happened and take the time to listen in a distraction-free zone to what they have to say. Ask them their opinion on a certain situation, or if you notice they are feeling a particular emotion about something, ask them to share what they’re feeling. If they know that you listen and that you’re a safe place to share what they’re feeling, their confidence will grow, and they’ll feel more supported.
Last, make sure you hear your children talking about them in a positive way. Building them up helps empower them to be comfortable in who they are. Even during the awkward years of middle school and young adulthood, if you praise them for their efforts, resilience, and for their uniqueness, they will feel empowered to pick themselves up when they have a hard day.