Mental health is equally important as physical health, but talking about it with children can be difficult. Talking openly about it may not come easy to you, but mental health struggles are common and it’s important to discuss the topic with them in a compassionate and supportive way.
Young people are also experiencing more and more mental health crises, too. That’s why it’s very critical to make them feel comfortable to ask questions or share what they might be going through, so they don’t feel isolated or alone. So, even when it feels overwhelming to discuss, conversations that are open, empathetic, and honest are key.
Here are some practical tips to talk about mental health with your children.
Be open and willing to share your own feelings or experiences.
Children often model adults and if they see that you are open and willing to share your emotions or experiences, they may feel more comfortable doing so also. Instead of pushing emotions aside or sweeping experiences under the rug, talk openly about how mental health issues can be a struggle.
Hiding problems can contribute to negative stigmas surrounding mental health and it’s important to teach children not to keep their feelings bottled up. If there is a mental health concern that comes up in your family, with a neighbor or community member, or even in the news, talk about it and encourage them to be supportive.
In addition, don’t feel like you need to tackle all of the difficulties that surround mental health. Start with a short conversation. Ask some open-ended questions while you’re driving or cleaning up around the house. If you bring it up in a casual way, there’s less risk of it feeling scary or intimidating.
Demonstrate good listening skills.
Once you open up the conversation surrounding mental health, don’t just tell your child you’re there to listen – actively demonstrate it. Validate their feelings or questions – even when it’s tough or confusing to talk about. If they know they are heard, this creates space for them to come to you with other challenging situations later.
Teach them ways to self-regulate.
Life is difficult sometimes and teaching children how to soothe and regulate themselves during challenging times is a good life skill to have. Whether it’s breathing exercises, going for a walk, drawing, jumping rope, or journaling – there are a lot of great ways to encourage them to feel the feelings, then work toward moving through them.
Last, make sure your children know that you’re in their corner, no matter what. If they know that they are loved and supported, they will be better able to navigate through life, even when hard times come. In addition, let them know that you’re not the only one there for them. There are counselors, therapists, doctors, mental health coaches, counselors, pastors, and many other trusted adults who will show them that they are unique gifts and that they matter.